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It’s Either $102.20 A Month Or The Alternative … The Alternative

The price for a Grande (16oz) Caffè Americano at Starbucks is currently $3.65 if you and your spouse shared a single cup—plus the backwash.

I thought, ah yes, it’s perfect and perfectly reasonable to make this Grande Caffè a 7 day commitment with my wife; there’s a view, great service and best of all it’s convenient in more ways than one; we found a nice spot outside to see the sunrise—when the weather permits—and a spot inside where we can talk, read and write—being that it’s not a busy location.

Laura looking cute in the sunrise drinking coffee

If my intuition was operating at full capacity and accurate, I’m sure Starbuck’s employees were watching out their windows curious about this couple that just randomly walks across an empty parking lot to watch the sunrise just a little closer than under their canopy (or awning—whatever). We stopped and just stared for a good 10-15 minutes as the the earth rotated for the sun to rise above our horizon and it felt so good to soak it in, I encourage it!

Do it, go outside when the sun rises at your location and soak it in!

Nathan and Laura happily investing time together

So here we are: investing time together. The wheels start turning. Ideas start emerging. “What if we made this a daily commitment,” I asked Laura while running the numbers, but she had a better idea after seeing the numbers.

Nathan looking awkward after Laura ditches the shot

And that’s why we’re getting divorced.

The end.

Joking!

Laura’s idea was far better than mine in so many ways, what if we turn our room into this experience; my mother-in-law has lived with us since before we were married to make a longer story shorter, and so our room is our “house” to get creative with.

Boom! Next thing we know: we’re on mission for a dynamic room space! The key is effort more than convenience for progressive growth; convenience needs to work in tandem or the result will be regressive.

And that it is, a dynamic room space – as I prepare to publish this post today, a week and two days later.

More to come… until next time, make an effort to see the sunrise.

YOU SHALL LOVE…

I recently read a rule on writing: write the way you speak. And so this is me trying to write how I speak, only…I don’t—actually—know that I would’ve started off so eloquently as I have. It might’ve started something more like me interrupting your peaceful train of thought on something much more…stupid— “so yo I read this rule about writing the way you speak,” as you roll your eyes to look at me with annoyance for interrupting a perfectly awesome daydream about things I would not care at all about other than, of course, the fact you cared enough to depart your attention from the society I so happen to inhabit. Which is unacceptable. I can’t have that.

Anyway. The point is, I need your attention. “Why” might be your urge that boils from within to a steam for my ears to hear, but let me save you that frustration by demanding you obey these two commandments before you burn…me (haha—did you like that pause, cause I did).

“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ Upon these two commandments hang the whole Law and the Prophets.”—Matthew 22:36-40 (NASB)

See, now, doesn’t that make you feel all better…

If you’re of the literal type, you might be driven to brink of insanity when stuck on whether your author is being humorous or narcissistic—or possibly both. And so let me save you the suspense by affirming that I look at myself in the mirror when singing, also after taking a selfie, which causes me to start singing again. So basically I’m singing as I look at myself in the reflection of my computer screen:

OUR GOOOOOD…IS AN AWWESOMMEE GOD
HE REIGNS…FROM HEAVEN ABOVE
WITH WIIIISDOM, POWER, AND LOVE—

Because after all, our God is an awesome God for making someone like me— am I right!? And if you haven’t laughed at all by anything I’ve written thus far…welp, congratulations, you interpret everything from an extreme literal perspective. Which is perfectly fine, you just…might, well…need a moment, or two, to breathe, but regardless; my sense of humor is outstanding— am I right!?—(last one—that was the last one).

So now that you’ve loved me this far into your reading, lets talk about how God loves you.

YOU SHALL LOVE

I don’t think Jesus—the proclaimed Son of Man—would’ve said what He didn’t learn from His Father—the proclaimed God—without you—the proclaimed reader—in mind when He said: You shall love .

Is it wrong of me to believe that Jesus knew the conditions for such a—an axiomatic—statement yet to be proven on the terms of human nature?

I guess what I mean by that is…because Jesus knew that mine and your condition of sin (as equivalent to those questioning) blinds us from seeing the truth of such love accomplished in Him; how could there be any other way for us to see that eternal meaning of Love that God is, than for Jesus to die without tasting sin—although tempted to the point of sweating blood in resistance as you might recall “yet not as I [Jesus] will, but as You [Father] will“? The discipline of God’s Just wrath due our sin could only be quenched by the blood and water of the innocent Lamb of God—Jesus our Christ. And that, by what Jesus did on the cross, gives us a new way of seeing.

Whatever the hurt, pain, or suffering you’re experiencing; you might be on trail for your faith. And I encourage you by calling to mind where Jesus is, your Intercessor of the faith in which you hold so dear. Keep holding, hold on, don’t let go. God knows the truth of your condition so intimately that He gave His only Son as that Lamb for the sake of you. He loves you.

Don’t get me wrong, I write this in “confidence” while yet experiencing my own set of trials tempting my carnal intellect for all kinds of ghastly evil; a 3 or 4 letter word at my fingertips all too simple to type with a swift motion of my pinky—*enter*—is all it takes. Then down the rabbit hole I go with all reputation to proceed me, and that might be you at this very moment or possibly even the next. Is it? Will it be?

If it is; if it will be; be encouraged! There will be a necessary discipline, two world’s divided before you; one world will hate you, and the other will identify you as a hypocrite, but live in the former and not the latter even when you might visit the latter for a time (Don’t stay there!) Keep the faith!

Jesus showed us how we shall love, I pray we are doing so in this Christmas season, and even to death.

Amen

How Patience Is A Key Ingredient To Wisdom And Righteousness

It’s subjective, but I find that the most difficult—yet effective—way to learn patience is to subject myself to counsel. What this looks like as a practice is actively pursuing the Lord, my wife and the-other about a decision. No… not ‘the-other’ as in, another wife—you know what happen to Solomon—but the-other, as in, another person. And it is ideal for the person not only to be knowledgeable about the nature of the decision, but to know me personally. I’m talkin: spiritually, psychologically, financially, the works. Because if those measures aren’t known by my counsel… then making an important decision before receiving counsel will result to chaos. The experience is excruciating!

For Laura and I to make the most out of our time, advance in our field, and accomplish the ultimate goal of persuasion that the world cannot deny being the freedom we have in Christ Jesus our Lord— well… then… I need a twenty-five hundred dollar laptop!

Okay while that was meant to be funny, the point is a decision to purchase a laptop that can handle video editing software at the budget of $2,500.00! Given my personality, I want the best and don’t want to wait, because… well, I can be an idiot. It’s really as simple as that! However, I do love God and desire to honor Him with all my heart.

Patience is a key ingredient to wisdom, and after listening to the Lord, my wife, and Ryan; you’d be real proud of me! I didn’t choose the $3,100 Razer from Micro Center (considering the awesome labor day deal they had for 0 interest)—which would have been convenient—and settled on a $2,584.00 ASUS from Amazon. We’ll see how it turns out, but I’m confident the value of this transaction was experienced in the eternal development of my character for righteousness by the process of procedure we executed together, not myself alone for some financial gain, material possession, or grandiose idea (not that those are wrong, bad, or evil). But the aim is not to miss the mark!

DISCLAIMER:
Nathan Psychology: The study of oneself for righteous behavior, and my written perspective on the experiential process of edification to sanctification. What does it mean to be born of God, overcome the world, and be made new through faith in believing Jesus Christ is the way of my salvation? I’m discovering the path through spiritual discipline—