When You’ve Cheated On Her In Her Dream

I wake up to my wife getting ready for work and check how I can help, make coffee, prepare food, or whatever to get her on her way. But something was off. I notice some distance. Before asking anything, she says, “I’m a little mad at you because you cheated on me in my dream.” Now…I’m laughing on the inside because she is trying hard not to treat me like this actually happened, but assure her that it was just a dream. Then she asks, “What would you have done if I caught you?”

The narcissistic egotistical pride thought process says, “That question is unwarranted and is not possible because I wouldn’t get caught.” and (even if that thought is a joke) would invalidate her present feelings. Don’t do that. The considerate prudent thought process is realizing how this dream has affected her, and embracing with, “It wouldn’t be healthy for me to answer as though that has or were going to happen; the thoughts that surround that question only mean for harm on the covenant of our marriage, but let me reassure that I love you and will honor our marriage.”

Husbands and Wives. Marriages. Let this be an encouragement to you. We are at war, not against each other, but for each other!

With love.

Nathan Dooley